Sex Therapy in New York City, NYS, Massachusetts & Colorado

Compassionate care for desire, arousal, pain and pleasure
In person in NYC/Brooklyn • Teletherapy across New York State, Massachusetts and Colorado

What Sex Therapy Is

Sex therapy is a specialized form of talk therapy with a Certified Sex Therapist that is focused on sexual health and wellbeing (desire, arousal, pain, and intimacy) within the context of your body and relationships. Sessions are non judgmental, consent based and paced by you. For a primer on responsive desire, sexual pain, and common concerns, see Sexual Concerns.

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Who It’s For

Anyone concerned with

  • Desire differences or avoidance cycles

  • Arousal/orgasm difficulty or performance anxiety

  • Pain with penetration (vaginismus, vulvodynia, dyspareunia)

  • Erection or ejaculation concerns

  • Trauma related intimacy challenges

  • Kink exploration, fantasy shame, porn concerns or CNM specific intimacy concerns

What to Expect

  1. Consultation (10–15 min): In a brief call, we confirm fit and licensure (NY & CO), clarify your goals and review scheduling and logistics.

  2. Intake (Session 1): We map goals, boundaries and relevant health context together. We discuss on a no pressure pace that feels workable.

  3. Early Work (with comprehensive sexual history): We begin with a full, systemic sexual history that is collaborative and in depth so we are starting from a place of understanding the factors that influence how you show up in sex and relationships today. We explore medical factors and medications, development and education, identity and values, pleasure and pain patterns, arousal and orgasm, relationship structures and agreements, consent and boundaries, body image, trauma history, and cultural or religious messages. We also normalize sexual physiology (for example, responsive desire), reduce performance pressure, and increase emotional and physical safety, while introducing home practices that allow for connection, growth and intimacy.

  4. Core Work: We focus on getting you where you want to be in all areas of pleasure, intimacy and sex. That can include understanding and shifting patterns in intimacy and sex, building an understanding of your sexual self and desires, communication upgrades, sensate focus and other touch/pleasure style exercises, homework exercises for you or you and your partner(s). We can can utilize trauma informed methods such as EMDR or IFS when triggers or shame get in the way and when relevant, we can coordinate care with pelvic floor physical therapy or medical providers to support comprehensive healing.

  5. Integration: We translate your gains into everyday habits by establishing rituals of connection, creating scripts for sticky moments and shaping plans that fit your real life.

Common Concerns We Can Address

  • Postpartum/menopause changes

  • Identity, kink, CNM

  • Sexual exploration

  • Changes in sexuality due to trauma, life transitions or medical conditions

  • Shame, stigma self judgement

  • Intimacy, connection, eroticism with self and partner(s)

  • Giving and receiving pleasure

  • Sexual aversion

  • Giving and receiving pleasure

  • Desire mismatch (Desire discrepancy)

  • Low/fluctuating desire

  • Pain with penetration

  • Arousal challenges

  • Performance anxiety

  • Porn concerns

  • Difficulty or inability to achieve orgasm

  • Opening up

  • Sexual communication

What Improves Over Time

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  • You experience less pressure, shame and “shoulds,” and you approach intimacy with more curiosity and choice.

  • You communicate more clearly about needs, limits and desires, and those conversations feel safer and more productive.

  • You notice decreased pain and anxiety, and arousal and/or orgasm become more reliable and accessible.

  • You cultivate more play, more shared meaning and a broader definition of satisfying intimacy, not just a focus on frequency.

Methods I Draw From

  • Systemic Sex Therapy: looks at all biopsychosocial factors, including beliefs, past and present stress, and relationships so change sticks.

  • EFT + Gottman (Couples/Multi Partner): repair, responsiveness, and practical tools.

  • IFS (Parts Work): soften shame/avoidance, increase choice and self compassion.

  • EMDR: lower the “charge” on past experiences that impact intimacy.

  • ACT/CBT: unhook from worry loops and take values aligned steps without perfection pressure

  • Only what you choose. I keep language respectful and use language that feels comfortable to each client.

  • I use a biopsychosocial plan and, if helpful, coordinate with pelvic floor PT or medical providers.

  • Yes using EMDR/IFS at a pace you set.

  • No. Sex therapy is a professional, talk based process with clear boundaries and no sexual or inappropriate contact.

FAQ’s

Helpful Next Pages

In person in New York City/Brooklyn. Teletherapy anywhere in New York State and Colorado.

Location & Access

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