Poly / Open / Consensual Non Monogamy (CNM) Affirming Therapy in New York City, NY, Massachusetts and Colorado

Affirming support for polyamory, open relationships, and relationship diversity
In person in NYC/Brooklyn • Teletherapy across New York State and Colorado

  • You’re exploring non monogamy and want an informed, nonjudgmental therapist.

  • Jealousy, comparison or reassurance needs are straining connection.

  • Agreements feel fuzzy or uneven; someone’s needs keep getting lost.

  • You’re adding or deescalating a relationship and want to do it with care.

  • Privacy, disclosure or calendar transparency keeps causing friction.

  • You’re tired of educating therapists or being pathologized for how you love.

Is This You?

CNM is a valid relationship orientation. Many difficulties seen in CNM also appear in monogamy (communication, trust, repair); CNM simply adds more connections and variables. Jealousy is not a moral failure; it’s an emotion with information. Sustainable CNM rests on clear agreements, transparent expectations, repair you can count on, and time energy boundaries that feel fair. Therapy should support autonomy + consent + care, not force a specific structure.

Why CNM Challenges Are Workable (Quick Education)

Where to Start (and How We’ll Choose the Right Format)

  • Multi Partner Therapy helps your constellation clarify agreements, handle jealousy and reassurance and build fair, sustainable structures.

  • Couples Therapy supports a dyad within a larger network to repair, clarify boundaries and realign values.

  • Individual Therapy offers space to sort values, attachment needs and CNM-related stress without managing others’ feelings in the moment.

Approaches that often help:

EFT (for safety, bonding, and repair), Gottman (conflict tools and repair), IFS (to soften parts around jealousy/protection) and Sex Therapy (desire, arousal, erotic authenticity).

Helpful next pages:

Sex therapy · Couples Therapy · Multi Partner Therapy · Sexual Concerns · Relationship & Attachment Concerns

A Calm, Paced Path Forward (What Working Together Looks Like)

We map your relationship structure and norms, clarify expectations and privacy boundaries, and set a fair pace. We create language for reassurance and repair, co write or refine living agreements and adapt bonding tools to fit your values. We then turn changes into habits that can include check ins, debriefs and calendar practices that keep care and clarity alive.

  • You move through clearer, kinder agreements everyone understands and can actually keep, which reduces friction and confusion.

  • You repair missteps faster and more effectively, so resentment does not accumulate and trust can grow across the network.

  • You hold more equitable time/energy boundaries, which lowers burnout and improves dynamics between partners and metamours.

  • You feel less anxious about jealousy and more access to reassurance and, at times compersion.

What Improves Over Time

  • No. We’ll combine full group and rotating subset sessions to keep momentum and fairness.

  • No. Your structure and values guide our work; I create a non judgemental space to work with any structure.

  • We set explicit confidentiality and information sharing norms at the start so everyone knows what is shared, with who and when.

  • Yes. We use sex therapy principles and can integrate sex therapy sessions when needed.

FAQs

In person in New York City/Brooklyn. Teletherapy anywhere in New York State, Massachusetts and Colorado.

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