Multi Partner Therapy in New York City, NYS, Massachusetts & Colorado

Poly/Open/CNM support for clarity, connection and care
In person in NYC/Brooklyn • Teletherapy across New York State, Massachusetts & Colorado

What Multi Partner Therapy Is

Multi partner therapy is a structured space for polyamorous, open and other CNM constellations to strengthen clarity, care and connection. We map your network, surface places where expectations are mismatched and build practical, values aligned agreements; all without pathologizing your relationship model. Care is CNM affirming, kink aware, LGBTQIA+ affirming and culturally responsive.

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Who It’s For

  • Triads, quads, polycules, or solo poly networks wanting clearer agreements and less friction

  • Partners navigating jealousy, reassurance, comparison or boundaries

  • Constellations adding or de escalating relationships with care and transparency

  • Dyads seeking support for their bond within a larger network

  • Families managing nesting, parenting, health or transitions across multiple bonds

What to Expect

  1. Consultation (10–15 min): In a brief call, we confirm fit and licensure (NY & CO), clarify goals and decide whether to begin with a full group or subset session.

  2. Intake & Norms: We map roles, structures and existing agreements, as well as setting confidentiality and information sharing norms so everyone knows how privacy and consent will be honored.

  3. Early Work: We strengthen communication and repair practices, navigate difficult dynamics and create shared language for jealousy, reassurance and disclosure that reflects your values and agreements.

  4. Core Work: We address the concerns that brought you in, the negative cycles contributing to pain and we adapt EFT informed bonding work for CNM while integrating IFS to address protectors that drive reactivity; when helpful, we schedule rotating subset sessions to move specific dyads forward.

  5. Integration: We install maintenance routines, check ins, debriefs, and ritualized updates to agreements so your ecosystem stays clear, caring and sustainable as life evolves.

Common Concerns We Can Address

  • Jealousy, reassurance needs and comparison spirals

  • Unclear agreements, secrecy or misaligned expectations

  • Time/energy equity, calendar transparency and burnout

  • Navigating major life changes or transitions

  • Conflicts that keep coming up, feeling the same pain points

  • Repair after ruptures (broken agreements, disclosure missteps)

  • Privacy and information sharing norms among metamours

  • Desire differences, intimacy concerns and kink alignment

What Improves Over Time

  • You operate with clearer, kinder agreements that everyone understands and can realistically follow, which reduces friction and confusion.

  • You repair missteps more quickly and effectively, so resentment does not accumulate and trust has room to grow.

  • You maintain more equitable time and energy boundaries, which lowers burnout and improves goodwill across the network.

  • You experience less anxiety around jealousy and more access to reassurance and compersion, and the relationship ecosystem feels more stable overall.

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Methods I Draw From

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy: helps partners share softer needs and respond with care across relationships.

  • Gottman Method: provides practical tools for gentle start ups, repair that lands and shared rituals and meaning.

  • Internal Family Systems Therapy: softens jealous, fearful or avoidant protectors and increases choice and self leadership.

  • Systemic Sex Therapy: addresses desire, arousal and pleasure with attention to body, beliefs, consent and dynamics.

  • ACT/CBT & EMDR (as needed): support values aligned action, anxiety reduction and trauma processing when past injuries keep interrupting the present.

  • Not necessarily. We will combine full group sessions with rotating subset sessions when that best supports momentum and fairness.

  • No. Your structure and values guide the work. My role is to support sustainability, consent, and care, not to impose a model.

  • We set explicit confidentiality and information sharing norms at the start so everyone knows what is shared, with whom and when.

  • Yes. We use systemic sex therapy principles and can weave in sex therapy sessions or coordinate with medical/pelvic floor PT if needed.

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In person in New York City/Brooklyn. Teletherapy anywhere in New York State, Massachusetts and Colorado.

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