Couples Therapy in New York City, NYS, Massachusetts & Colorado

Repair conflict, rebuild trust and feel safe together again
In person in NYC/Brooklyn • Teletherapy across New York State, Massachusetts and Colorado

What Couples Therapy Is

Couples therapy gives you a focused space to understand your interaction cycle (the triggers, meanings and protective moves that keep arguments looping) and to replace it with connection you can count on. We slow conversations, surface the softer feelings under reactivity and build reliable repair. This work is LGBTQIA+ affirming, CNM/poly affirming and culturally responsive. There’s no “taking sides”; we work together to address the pattern, not against either partner.

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Who It’s For

Anyone concerned with

  • Recurring arguments, distance or feeling unseen or alone

  • Trust injuries (affair discovery, secrecy, broken agreements) that won’t heal

  • Communication breakdowns, shutdown/stonewalling or escalations that just keep happening

  • Navigating parenting stress, career/health changes or life transitions straining connection

  • Desire or intimacy concerns that need both emotional safety and practical tools

What to Expect

  1. Consultation (10–15 min): In a short call, we confirm fit and licensure (NY, MA & CO), clarify your shared goals and review scheduling.

  2. Intake & Cycle Mapping: We gather each partner’s perspective and map your negative interaction cycles together so we have a shared picture that does not place blame on either partner.

  3. Early Work: We slow escalations, practice gentler start ups and create enough emotional safety that vulnerable feelings can be expressed and received without the conversation tipping into defense or shutdown.

  4. Core Work: We use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to create bonding moments where one partner reaches differently and the other responds with care; we add Gottman Method tools for repair, conflict management and shared rituals; and, when trust has been injured, we follow a structured, accountable trust repair process.

  5. Integration: We consolidate progress by agreeing on conflict rules you both trust, establishing rituals of connection that fit your lives and planning maintenance check ins so gains hold under stress.

Common Concerns We Can Address

  • Escalation, defensiveness, criticism or stonewalling

  • Emotional disconnection, loneliness or lack of teamwork

  • Trust injuries and ongoing suspicion or hypervigilance

  • Misaligned boundaries, expectations or values during transitions

  • Conflicts that keep coming up, feeling the same pain points

  • Navigating major life changes or transitions

  • Desire discrepancies, performance pressure or pain impacting intimacy

What Improves Over Time

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  • You experience fewer escalations and you repair ruptures more quickly and cleanly, so conflicts no longer take days to settle.

  • You recognize the pattern sooner, express needs more clearly and respond to each other with more empathy and less defensiveness.

  • You establish boundaries and agreements you can actually keep, and you feel more like a team when life gets loud.

  • You notice renewed affection, intimacy and trust, and you carry a steadier sense that “we can handle hard things together.”

Methods I Draw From

  • EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy): change the pattern by sharing softer needs and responding with care.

  • Gottman Method: practical tools, gentle start ups, repair that lands and shared rituals and meaning.

  • IFS (Parts Work): soften protectors like the inner critic, controller or avoider so closeness feels safer.

  • EMDR (as needed): reduce the charge on memories that flood the present (e.g., betrayal discovery, medical crises).

  • ACT/CBT: build workable steps and boundary clarity between sessions.

  • We typically use a mix of joint and brief individual check ins; we’ll choose the format that best supports momentum and safety.

  • We can start with clarity and stabilization, set near term goals and revisit decisions at planned checkpoints.

  • Skills help, but we focus on the bond that makes skills stick. Changing the pattern changes the conversation.

  • No. Sex therapy is a professional, talk-based process with clear boundaries and no sexual or inappropriate contact.

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In person in New York City/Brooklyn. Teletherapy anywhere in New York State, Massachusetts and Colorado.

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